[singlepic id=1 w=320 h=240 float=left]Artist: Donna Raymond
Title: Infinitus
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FEATURE ARTICLE
Conscious Co-Creation Can Heal Relationships
Every relationship – in our family, at work, with friends or an intimate relationship – reflects an unconscious agreement between the two people involved. These agreements could be very constructive, but more likely there will be aspects that would surprise you, and that are in fact the very things that frustrate you. For example, an ‘agreement’ might be that one person will be the ‘giver’ and the other the ‘receiver’; or that one person, ‘to keep the peace’, (or perhaps to keep their job), will tolerate the other treating them disrespectfully or even abusively. By unconsciously seeking out others who will interact with us in specific ways, we form relationships that have the potential to con- tribute to our spiritual maturity by raising is- sues for healing. However, we might never recognise this potential, and instead walk away when the going gets too tough.
Recently, when a friend was de- scribing a problem with her partner, she said, “Of course, I’ve let it happen.” My friend acknowledged that she has played a part in creating her relationship the way it is. It’s more common, however, to blame other people for the things we’re unhappy about in relationships. Recognising one’s own contribution to a situation doesn’t automatically solve the problem, but recognition is the first step towards consciously re- creating the relationship in a different form.
When we blame, judge, seek to be seen as right, want to get our own way, and try to force or manipulate another person to be as we want them to be, our ego is running the show. For conscious co-creation to truly transform a relationship, both parties must have some awareness of their role in creating the relationship, and be willing to change. This means learning to recognise when the ego is in control and moving into consciousness – perhaps into listening instead of criticism, compassion instead of blame. This can sound difficult, and we might fear that our own needs won’t be met under these circumstances.
Eckhart Tolle claims, however, that consciousness itself is our essence and it can never be destroyed. In a state of pure consciousness we are not driven by the ego’s needs, but are centred in stillness and operate from our true self. The essence of pure consciousness, and there- fore of our true self, includes unconditional love, compassion and joy. All of our learnt ego-centred behaviour is directed towards getting our needs met – it is the ego that feels fear. But if we can be open to the idea that we are pure consciousness, there is no need for fear of lack – we have direct access to the love, creativity and joyousness we most long for.
We can heal relationships from this state of pure consciousness; and even if only one person is conscious, this can help. In the past I worked as a human resources consultant to organisations. One senior manager I met was an absolute harpy, frequently blaming, screaming and swearing at staff and other managers. Even the organisation’s directors were too intimidated by her behaviour to address the problem. But she treated one manager respectfully. I asked him why this was so, and he told me that one day he had walked out of her office in the middle of her verbal abuse, and kept walking even when she screamed, “Don’t you f****ing walk away when I’m speaking to you.” Later he went to her office and told her quietly that he would no longer accept being spoken to the way she had done, and that he would continue to walk away if this occurred again. After a couple more experiences of him walking away, she changed her manner with him.
Conscious co-creation in a relationship means both people committing to relating from their true self (consciousness) rather than from ego. Ways to access and maintain consciousness include regular meditation, and practices such as focusing on the breath or some part of the body, in order to remain present. We might also need to uncover and heal beliefs that underlie our fears, so that fear arises less and less frequently. A couple of relevant YouTube clips by Eckhart Tolle are Being Present in Relationships and Presence in Relationships (to find them, Google ‘You- Tube’ plus the title).
You might also find the book Mindful Loving, reviewed in this edition of Connect Magazine, helpful in understanding and healing issues that your relation- ships bring to the surface. I have found the technique described in the review very effective for moving from ego to consciousness by recognising and quickly stopping thoughts that can lead to negative emotions and unloving, judgmental reactions, either towards myself or towards another person. The book explains many such helpful practices.
The first step in conscious co- creation is to focus on shifting our own state from ego to true self, and not to try to change the other person. As we are less fearful and more forgiving, more loving and more compassionate, we elicit different responses from the other person and the relationship changes. And sometimes the other person will also embrace this process, working with us in co-creating a relationship based on unconditional love. As we are pure consciousness itself, we need not look to others to meet our needs; we have limitless love and compassion to give, and truly deep connection with others can arise.
Annabel Muis
REGULAR FEATURE
Food For Thought – Silica – The Magnetic Element
Temple of the Spirit – Our Physical Body
All physical symptoms are a result of the spirit, soul and the physical body not being fully aligned and balanced. When these bodies are in balance, the energy is able to flow clearly from our spirit, through us and into the earth, as it is meant to. Many people are unable to transfer the energy from the spirit through to the physical, and this is felt as heart palpitations and spaciness, from the energy backing up in the spiritual body. The physical body feels tired and weak and unwell, because it is vibrating out of sync with the energy of the spirit.
Our physical body is the temple of the spirit – the gem of the earth. Minerals are the rock foundation that forms the ‘stones’ of the temple of our spirit. If we were cremated, the ash would not be composed of the important nutrients such as vitamins, barley green or herbs; the ash residue comes from the minerals. The ‘stones’ of the temple of spirit (our body) are formed only from the minerals. Enlightenment or insight comes for a reason; for us to take action. We cannot effectively take action when the physical body is not light with ease and wellness,
SILICA – ‘Magnetic’
Each organ demands silica to transmit and receive nerve impulses; Silica is the ‘magnetic’ element. Magnetic comes from the Sanskrit word majaji, meaning learned, great, wise. From this same origin comes magi, magic, magician. Silica has a remarkable effect on the part of us that thinks and observes. Silica invigorates and energises our body.
Nicotine or other drug habits are more easily overcome when silica is well supplied; and conversely drugs are desired when silicon is deficient.
Decisions are easily and spontaneously made with ample silica. Life can appear hopeless when silica deficient. Counselling and affirmations will not help if the temple of our spirit is missing a few ‘stones’. Silica is lacking, not counselling or affirmations or positive thinking. It is difficult to think positively if there is a lack of nerve transmission. Nourish the temple of the spirit and the mind and emotions will better receive the messages from spirit. Silica increases courage. Basically there are only two emotions – love and fear. We might not be lacking in love when fearful; we might be lacking silica. And if we are lacking love – silica is the love element. You might ask, “Doesn’t love come from the divine?” Yes it does, and we want that love transmitted through our temple and, silica along with the other ‘temple stones’, are needed for this transmission.
Symptoms of Deficiency
Hysteria, anxiety, drug addiction, stiff joints, mental fatigue, excessive perspiration; inflexible; co-ordination problems, fungal diseases, stubbornness; refuses to learn new things, lack of shine to facial skin, dry or parched lips, boils, itching skin, falling hair, cracking nails, psoriasis, impotence and sexual disability.
Highest Silica Foods
Brown rice, seeds, nuts, beans, thyme, prunes, raw egg yolk, and pecans.
By Faye Rosie, naturopath, shaman, medical intuitive and author of ‘The Power of Your Spirit’ and the ‘Heart Healing Symbol Cards’ 4055 2868. faye@hearthealing.com.au